She refuses to wear lingerie ?

Yesterday I've heard it once too many times. The usual 'She's a great girl but refuses to wear lingerie' lamentation.

One more typical pattern of a guy who persists to date a girl despite her systematic refusal of even this simplistic concession.

The holy grail for greedy couple counselors who know what hides under the hood and how much easy cash is in-sight as many fruitless sessions will line in the agenda.

Things can however go quite beyond appearances.

Most of those repealed by lingerie women are in a state of rather simplistic first degree egoistic refusal. A genuineness syndrome.

But what if, she was secretly driven by her uninvestigated status of Female-To-Male crossdressing ?

Carving for understanding the same way as you do ? Silently nurturing dreams of jockstraps, ties, 3-piece suits, aftershave  alike you go for panties, stockings, slips, ball-gowns, heels, perfumes ?

Let's assume the most pessimistic figures, statistics where there's 1 FTM for 16 MTF crossdressers. And that, roughly 2% of the male population could eventually be cursed into Sissyhood by fairies.

The probability for a FTM crossdresser to randomly date a MTF crossdresser is an insignificantly low figure of 0.0025% .

Not all MTF and FTM seek dates with the genetically opposite gender. Most FTM on record would seek contact with girls and, well, we all know, a significant proportion of MTF's would go for a "daddy".

The effective score of a FTM finding a match with a MTF is therefore even lower.

So what gives ? Well... Talk it ! Ask her why on earth, she would actively repel your dreams of her wearing cute lingerie.

After all it's just a piece of fabric cut and sewn in a certain way. There's objectively no real danger if she would don stockings and other perfectly harmless items made for women.

Made for women.

Why would a woman refuse womanly things ?

Observe well for her reaction. There's nothing to loose but all to win.

Then add a bit more throttle. What about, if she keeps refusing, you wore them ? To demonstrate how harmless a full slip is and the how great it feels to hold someone wearing it ? No you are not joking, that's dead serious, there should be no such secrets in a couple.

It's just a plain way to please each other, an innocent deal, something absolutely insignificant compared to other life hassles you will share in the future...

Harmony matters, so why not put it on the discussion table and work a constructive way out ? Want to try ?

At this point you might either strike gold or run for safety as your entire gold mine collapses.

A cardinal milestone in your relation.

Seriously, would you consider as viable a relation where, despite being given all chances and understanding, your partner stubbornly refuses such a simple matter ?

Don't pass on. It's a make or break deal. Life reserves a stunning array of hardships that you will need to face together. United.

A poorly explained refusal to please can hide deeper darker traits, incurable egoism being the mildest.

Egoism. Quite scary on the long run. Deeply rooted philosophy of prevailing self-interest.

In one as in a thousand words, the worst known poison of happy trustworthy relationships.

Time to break apart. No regrets, later it would be much worse.

There's no cure for egoism.