Cross dressing and safety, how to survive in a world of dangers

Fairies are entities of love and compassion. Our real world not so much.

Safe cross-dressing is of paramount importance. Feminine intuition and inner voice warnings are our primary threat detection radar.

Which should not exclude other typically earthy means of defense.

The danger zone

Cross-dressers are exposed to several threats including but not limited to:

• Loneliness
• Alcohol, drugs
• Verbal abuse
• Physical abuse
• Fake, untrustworthy encounters
• Scams
• Internet

With time I have experienced most if not all from that list of nastiness and, thanks to my Fairy and other undisclosed training, managed to survive.

Threats are mutually-dependent, one can escalate into another, several can combine and lead to abominable situations.

Cook-book recipes are of no little in real world.

Threat awareness, mental and physical readiness are cardinal rules for survival.

Cross dressers are lonely

Loneliness. A horrible word that keeps taking it's toll of Sisters. Loneliness is a silent evil serial killer.

Loneliness can strike anyone. Deform perception of reality. Lure into actions with heavy consequences. Dull survival instincts.

Loneliness is the absolute evil cabal trap.

All set with a scent of perfume, looking at your best in your lingerie and outfit. Prancing around between lone empty walls, heels clicking in the stillness.

Empty. Lonely. No warm arms to hug you, no sweet words whispered in your ear. Void walls all around.

Loneliness has won, you are ready to give anything for a presence. No price is too dear to reward company. Any presence. What was that ? Emptiness calls your name ?

(Loud cymbal clash) Wake up Girl !

The cabal has managed to overcome your Fairy's voice ? You need a thorough spanking for letting this happen. More on that later  ;) Now it's time for action.

You're lonely but you're not alone sweetie, shake down all that black dust, throw it in the toilet, flush twice.

You are not alone. Your Fairy Is always with you, in you. It's your turn to help her break free from the dark forces of the cabal.

Darkness hates scents, darkness hates beauty, darkness hates love, darkness hates music. Up you go girl ! Get ready for a commando assault. Questions ? Good, let's give them hell, shall we ?

Fetch that perfume, aim, acquire target and shoot. KaBoom. Spot-on !

Stand-up girl, proud, enchanting, groom your outfit, yes, undo that button, let your lace show ;)

Hear screeching screams ? Loneliness just took another direct hit. Congratulations, you're getting damn good at it ! Reload !.

Stretch you arms girl, wear a smile, wear that irresistible smile. That's it, Girl, you're on something !

Whisper to your Fairy, desire her, show her your open heart, your open arms...

Call your Fairy cute names, she's just had rough times and sure can use a warm scented hug.

That's it Girl, play a sweet tune, a girly tune, be the music box dancer erupting to life.

Let your Fairy teach you the steps, dance of life, dance for your life.

Swirl swish your skirts, sway your hips, you made it, stand proud on your heels feel the stench of burning rot fade away as darkness consumes itself in greenish eerie flames.

Nice shots Girl! Your Fairy is sure proud of you !

You are not alone Girl ! We, your sisters are millions, we are legion.

We love you Girl, we need you Girl, don't ever part from happiness. Trust your Fairy, she sure knows how to take good care of you. Sure she does.

You're ready. Prepared. Trained. Should the dark forces of loneliness come for a revenge they'll get more of the same.

Feel them coming ? Flash a smile, clutch your Fairy's hand and get kicking bad guys ass till it can't take kicks no more.

Let your girly powers work for you, hug your fairy and hear loneliness scream in agony.

We are legion. We will prevail !

Drugs, alcohol, artificial paradise

A glass of wine can dull your Fairy's voice and lower the guards of your feminine intuition.

Something we don't need unless, well, social is social ;)

A drunk girl is as lady-unlike as it gets. A drunk girl is in permanent danger.

Keep in mind that while you drink and loose your senses other, bad guys inclusive, could remain sufficiently sober to hurt you.

Why are you offered a drink ? Do you know well the person offering it ? How far away are you from home ? From safety ? What will happen if all of a sudden you are to loose conscience and fall, helpless ?

What's in that drink ? Hey, Girl, drinks can be laced with nasty substances. Too nasty to even talk about, just keep in mind that some of them will reduce your will to slush.

Turn you into a zombie doll and erase all your memories of what might have occurred.

Freaks are everywhere. Is that nice guy really an admirer or a potential maniac killer in disguise ?

Drinks and drugs do not solve problems. More so they create bigger problems.

Drunk and/or drugged you won't feel your petticoats caress your nylon clad legs, walking in heels will be problematic and finally you'll loose all those wonderful perceptions of being a girl.

Reduced to an inert chunk of breathing flesh, is that what you want ?

No, hell no.

Want a drink ? We said a drink, not a dozen. Stick to it!

Get a ladylike liquor, savor it with moderation and make it last.

That's how ladies absorb alcohol. More in the elegance less in the substance.

Consider toilet duties before guzzling beer. Beer is not a lady's drink. That's one. Appropriate commodities might not be available. That's two.

Imagine being forced to relief yourself standing in a dress while other guys take care of their business. Quite a situation.

Someone insisting you take that drug ? Telling you how cool it is ? Break apart.

Tell him, "If it's so good then I'll rather let it stay with you I don't know how to appreciate these things." Then go in retreat. Walk or run away. There's nothing good in drugs.

Destroying your body and soul is not what your Fairy has in mind. What she needs to see is a happy peppy girl with a fresh clean mind.

Let's repeat again. Fresh and clean mind. Your fairy has headquarters in your mind. Will she appreciate living in melting down irrational crap ? Definitely not.

Your Fairy loves you, she opened you the doors of a wonderful world, please keep it clean, fresh and welcoming.

Verbal abuse

In a word as in thousand: -Ignore it and retreat.

There's absolutely nothing to worry about being called names. Those doing it are handicapped by their lack of perception.

They see you with the eyes of common people. We are not common. We are chosen by Fairies. Not them.

Talking back is of no use. You can't give them what they lack, namely the intelligence to have an open mind.

Let them deal with themselves, retreat, move to safety.

Once it starts it's too late. Spirits heat. This is a normal reaction from those not smart enough to deal with their frustrations.

Prevention of verbal abuse is cardinal. Best practice is not to get exposed.

If you pass perfectly and limit your attire to what's reasonable for your age and figure, then you'll be treated as women so stay close to them. A bunch of women is very intimidating to most male potential verbal abuse perpetrators.

If you don't pass so well then it's another ballgame.

Women can be very nasty to cross-dressers. Most of them can not understand why a guy would carve to become a girl. Compassion is not the main keyword here don't even count on it.

A toilet dispute with women can land you at the cop's place.

Civilized zones and intellectually tolerant crowds are the best to start with.

Shopping malls and open sight parks in business areas are relatively safe provided no one takes you for a terrorist in disguise.

Minimize risks and take no chances. Verbal abuse is most likely to happen if you are easy to spot.

As sad as it gets home or clubs are the places to be unless you pass very well.

Physical abuse

Unless properly dealt with verbal abuse can (ad often does) degenerate to physical acts of violence.

Prevention is once again the cardinal rule for safety. Best strategy is to avoid uncomfortable places.

A trivial example, walking in a biker's bar is asking for trouble, just saying.

Even an expert in martial arts will be severely damaged by an angry mob.

Excessive alcohol, drugs and ethnic differences might trigger unpleasant outcomes.

Self defense training is highly recommended. No need to play champions league, correctly executed simple moves will often deter an assaulting individual.

Self-defense schools offer programs in specific to ladies techniques. You could learn how to weaponize high-heels (devastating !), car keys, purse straps, etc. to inflict very unpleasant and/or incapacitating sensations.

However those are for when prevention has failed and you have to face it.

What works for ladies will work for you. No flashy jewelry, appropriate outfits, common sense and most important of all, your Fairy's warnings.

Get out and away before things turn serious.

Those assaulting cross-dressers often forget that there's a man under that dress and expect little or no defense. Judge the situation and use full force at once. Warning moves will make things worse.

Shock, awe, run. Yes. Run for safety as soon as you have managed to shock and awe the assailant.

Being defeated by a "lady" is something many men take very badly, loose all self control and head for subsequent nastier assaults. Should they kill or get killed in the process is irrelevant to their state of mind.

Surprise plays in your favor, use it. You might not get a second chance.

Encounters and dating are not intrinsically safe. Cross-dressers attract a bunch of weirdos. No jokes.

First in the line are those unable to have a relation with a woman. Living in perpetual rejection they seek alternate ways to feminine favors.

A very dangerous and highly predatory species. They are easy to upset and fears of being rejected turn hatred in a heartbeat.

Kidnapers and worse belong almost always to this category.

Ask your Fairy for advice and always try to understand why an individual desperately seeks your proximity.

Weirdos hide in forums where they follow a repetitive pattern of contact seeking intellectually shallow strategies or spread pictures of their sexual organs (Hey sexy babe phone me I'am all yours).

Their aim is to get hold of your phone number and personals then flood your (voice)mail with crappy love confessions and date proposals.

Rejecting them subsequently will only exacerbate their frustrations and eventually trigger unwanted encounters.

Best practice is to avoid and ignore them without any information exchange. Left without reply they quickly give up and move to new targets.

Occurrence of religion fanatics is rare but non null.

Their modus-operandi is to lure victims and suppress them to purify the world of sinners.

Religious fanatics can be well groomed, polite and hold interesting conversations on a good intellectual level.

They can be very patient and will not rush the events.

However any signs of religious dedication are to be taken very seriously.

None of the main religions accepts cross-dressing. It's considered sinful practice deeply against god's will. Enough motives for zealots to jump over the edge and...

Follow your Fairy and intuition. Slightest uneasy feelings ? Don't.

At any moment your date should be aware that someone trustworthy knows your whereabouts and all details on your partner.

As general rule take only rides with someone you know well. Self explanatory.

Finally the great day. Out on a date. Where can 2 love birds give way to their passion ? My place your place ?

None of the above.

Letting a stranger in your premises is a potential risk. Remember there are weirdos on the loose.

Weirdos and thieves. Someone with sufficient knowledge can gather intelligence and compromise your locks (and alarm system) without you even noticing it. Then come back or send "collaborators"..

Innocently going to an unknown place is also not a recommended practice. Many maniacs have committed horrible acts on their guests.

Hotel room is safer on both counts. Hotel. Not sleazy hotel. Away from your usual areas.

Two adults booking a double room is nowadays commonly accepted practice and no place that I am aware of will request a matrimonial certificate.

To convince your partner you can pretend fulfilling a "hotel encounter" fantasy.

Your Fairy will certainly help decoding the answer. Fearing eventual witnesses ? If both have clean intentions meeting in a hotel room is not a crime.

Bondage and affiliate practices should be performed only with long known partners. Getting tied on a first night is asking for trouble. Same goes the other way around.

Tying someone does not guarantee peace of mind. Crooks won't hesitate to seek "out of court" arrangements for being bound and .. well, hell, you know what.

Paid services are hazardous deals.

Prostitution and pimps have strong business ties in an underworld where honor and correctness are irrelevant.

A fairly common crime scenario involves drugging the "client" to take hold of his possessions.

Accomplices can also appear from nowhere and use violence to obtain bank account details, credit card pins and other potentially damageable information or snap pictures then use them for blackmail purposes.

Is all hope lost ? No, hell no !

There are nice genuine persons out there. Chances that you find one of them are actually greater than the risk of ending up in murky waters.

Yet that risk exists and many have fallen victims. Cross-dressers are  considered easy targets by the world of crime.

Better safe than sorry ;)

Fake, untrustworthy encounters, sham marriages

A very widespread threat.

Fake friendship and sham marriage are the most common forms of sentimental abuse. Their consequences can be dramatic.

Foo friends can be convincing to the point of forcing you to ignore the warnings of your Fairy

Thex can anesthetize your intuition. Then bite where it hurts most.

Money Money...

Very few ladies are genuinely attracted by a love and trust based relationship with cross-dressers. As sad as it gets.

Exceptions are few and far apart. Accepting spouses are an extremely rare commodity.

That's precisely the niche targeted by fake would-be-brides whose real interest is not the person they're about to wed.

Sham marriages lead to real divorces. Official demonstration of the convenience grounds of a marriage is rarely possible.

Sham seeking partners are very good in luring innocent souls. They will pretend to love you, help you to achieve deeper feminization, be cooperative in all your attempts of happiness.

Follow the money. While you dream of pink clouds your assets are being evaluated and you might be as well sustaining more than one family in lower standard countries.

Missing money and unexplained expenses are the first tell-tale signs that you have been owned.

What your Fairy tried to warn you about in vain. Now it's too late. You are legally trapped.

I have been aware of a sham spouse systematically purchasing undersized attire for her husband.
Then instead of returning the goodies claiming non-return policies, she quietly dispatched them by UPS to her family who sold them.

The wake-up call came when the victim surprised and recorded a conversation where his wife was laughing over skype with her family on how easy that money was and what cars they would buy after the lucrative divorce in the making.

The probability of a supportive wife is extremely low.

The probability of a honest non-shame marriage with a partner from a lower living standard country is low.

Both combined result in practically no chance for a happy lasting and loving marriage with such partners. Time to scrap your profiles on international dating sites

Not everyone wearing a dress has been curse into it by a Fairy. A considerable amount of "fake" girls are on the loose in quest for financial or social retributions.

The existence of same sex sham marriages is real, enough said.

The worst part is that marriage is not a necessarily required stage.

Fake "foo" partners can abuse you and permanently hurt your self-esteem.

Key point is to never tie a relation with someone who will financially depend on you. Unless of course your wealth allows for such luxury and you're bored to the point of asking for trouble.

And never have kids until all is perfectly clear even if it takes years. Kids are often the missing wheel in the complex mechanism of lucrative divorces. Which becomes unstoppable once complete with all parts in place.

There is not such a thing as a spontaneously occurring happy end relation for cross-dressers.

Unions are to be built on trust, cultivated and maintained. A day to day task for all 3 of you, Fairy inclusive.

Scams

Collective scammer's fantasy is one of the few practical demonstrations of the meaning of infinity.

That beauty in love with you over Skype falls sick and needs urgent treatment ? Expensive treatment ? About as expensive as a brand new convertible car ?

Suddenly ill to the point of postponing your planned wedding date ?

Then a relative falls mysteriously victim of the same virus ? Or appendicitis ?

If not done yet, you are about to be owned.

Just an example of what scammers have on the stove for you.

Good news it that few scammers can penetrate the guards of your intuition and warnings from your Fairy.

Social networks and dating sites are Petri dishes cultivating a vast variety of scams. Any kind of scams.

Want to practice scam-baiting ? Have fun while distracting your scammer and waste his time ? Very noble indeed, the more time scammers waste the less victims they can steal.

If it smells like, feels like, too good or sad to be true, then it's crap.

However be warned. Years of scam-baiting taught me how convincing and nasty scammers can get.

Never expose your private details or true identity. Once spotted scammers become highly unpleasant, say words that can hurt, menace with imaginary threats ranging from authorities to blackmailing, black-magic and posting your pictures all over the net.

Never give them even remote access to your computer and other smartphones. Scammers are the lowest form of life specifically when they target my Sisters, that's you.

If you safely can, yes, give them hell.

Internet and social media

Internet never forgets. Whatever you post, type or browse is recorded for as long as forever.

Internet hosts social networks and other risky zones. Internet is not a reputable place. Internet can be deadly.

Highway of information or crime main street ? You decide by your behavior.

95% of all privately owned computers are compromised. Net bots, collections of infected remotely controllable zombified computers as big as 400'000+ are documented to exist. Hundreds of net-bots operate round the clock and risks are that your computer is part of one of them.

Imagine the consequences of your private and very private pictures appearing on the net. With a small note that unless you pay, your private details will appear next to them. Blackmailing at it's best.

Webcams can be turned into stealth operation by malicious software often disguised as free programs or games.

Devastating consequences can result for "closet" Sisters who keep their sisterhood in secrecy.

When not in use cameras should be shuttered and microphones disconnected unless you're a computer pro and know all about it.

Internet is infinite to human standards. It can absorb, submerge steering your attention away from your own real life.

Make your Fairy part of it. Spend time discussing your findings with your Fairy, your inner voice that is. She'll tell you when time has come to let go and be just the two of you without interferences.

Internet is home of social media. Most devious criminal spirits call it home.

It's highly addictive.

All is not lost. There are also positive sides.

With the help of your Fairy you will learn hos to search for "femme" things, learn tips and tricks and, last but not least, meet wonderful people.

Feminine intuition, one of the best presents from your Fairy makes the difference.